Surviving a long distance relationship is not given to everyone.Rather than be guided by instinct, it is vital to be disciplined based on strong foundations.
Indeed, to avoid scatter from you and make your relationship coasting, you must strive to implement the actions that really work for your relationship.
In this article, we'll explore the 10 commandments for a successful and fulfilling distance relationship.
These are the essential keys to overcoming this challenge and strengthen your relationship.
Commandment # 1: Solid rules, you will follow
- What is allowed and what is not?
- How often communicate?
- Is an exclusive relationship?
- Are there exceptions?
- Etc.
This may seem the antithesis of romanticism, but set strict rules vis-à-vis your communication, your interactions and all that relates directly or indirectly to your relationship, lets you know what to expect.
Talk and make sure that these rules are explicitly stated with concrete cases and you apply them both.
By having clear expectations for each other, you will avoid unnecessary conflicts and (in principle) surprises.
Commandment # 2: Constant communication, you will maintain
Without communication, a long distance relationship can not survive.
Of course depending on your professional and geographical situations, you have more or less time to devote to another. Despite technological advances, it's totally understandable.
Nevertheless, it is your duty to find out what tools and communication methods that allow you to develop remote and reconcile both trivial and profound conversations.
Use all means at your disposal, without spending your day on your phone or Skype before.
Make last as long as you are interested in the discussion, but if it runs out of steam, do not feel guilty hanging up.
Commandment # 3: The reunion, you multiply
Meanwhile your final reunion visits for a few days or weeks are very precious moments.
In addition to allow your partner to breathe, to celebrate your love and forge new memories, it also allows you to remember why you are fighting.
During the reunion you can finally reconnect fully with your half. So, do your best to see you as often as possible.
Commandment # 4: Your future, you plan
Where do you want your relationship leads you? Since a distance relationship is not an end in itself, what have you in mind?
Having goals and an idea of the sequence of events required to sit together is vital to preserve hope in your relationship.
Too many couples fail because of this error. They are desperately waiting for a miracle instead of investing and to find solutions.
Of course, it will make sacrifices. But if this idea scares you then you probably should not be a couple.
Commandment # 5: Surprises you inventeras
Surprise your other half allows you to break the routine and rekindle the flame in your relationship.
It can be anything reunion surprises as a surprise gift, or even an original activity to do on Skype.
Do you know why we love it so much surprises? Because it proves that our partner takes so much to us, he or she took her time without telling us to work to help out.
So regularly and spontaneously realize surprises for your partner.
However, be careful. If you show him in advance the nature of your surprise, you may ruin the result, in addition to giving you more pressure.
Commandment # 6: In confidence, you will win
Distance relationships are particularly affected by excessive doubts and jealousy.
While these points indicate that the person is attached to his family, these negative thoughts can quickly become destructive and threatening the relationship.
The fact is that when you kilometers away, it is impossible and immature to want to observe and control the actions of the other.
The only solution is: trust him. Without this it will be very hard to take. Do not hesitate to seek help from your partner, if necessary.
Commandment # 7: The perfect balance, you will find
There is nothing worse in the world than waiting at home desperately a text message or a call and curse the fact of living a long distance relationship.
Indeed, it is when you have too much time to think about your relationship as you begin to make all kinds of scenarios, so imagine that you half your trunk or if it would not break better.
Now all this is not necessary. Apart from the time you dedicate to your partner at a distance, you need to live your life.
Have fun, enjoy yourself and stay busy
Think about something else and find the balance between your love life and your personal life necessarily make you both happier.
Commandment # 8: Desire, you Maintain
Romance and seduction are not restricted to geographically close couples.
Clearly, if you see carefully preserve these two elements in your relationship, there will be much less likely that your partner go elsewhere.
This may surprise some, but the geographical separation is a unique opportunity to innovate and find new ways to keep the flame in his couple.
In fact, there are hundreds of ways to spice up her long-distance relationship! Which guarantees devilish reunion ...
Commandment # 9: The nature of your relationship, you will accept
You know what are the two ingredients that allow you to hold over time without flipping out? This is the patience and motivation.
For a long distance relationship looking more like a marathon than a sprint, it's about the time you need to make efforts.
As such, it must be understood in what you embark and fully accept this.
You live a long distance relationship. This necessarily involves many things for your relationship. It certainly would not be something easy and many obstacles and pitfalls await.
So do not try to respond as you would in a conventional relationship, but have to agree to relearn everything from the beginning (stages, communication, trust, intimacy, interactions, relationships with others, etc.).
It will then be much easier to be patient and stay motivated .
Commandment # 10: Optimistic and positive , you will remain
Many will tell you that distance relationship is doomed to fail. Do not listen to these people.
From my experience, I guarantee: distance relationships can work if you both work in this direction.
So, try to ignore the negative comments, but also to keep a positive vision of events and circumstances. If the situation is uncertain, try to convince you and remain optimistic.
Always assume that your other half does not deceive you, do not lie, love you, wish you happy and keep you.
Immediately, it is easier to live far from each other.
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